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Your Relationship with Money: Why It Can Feel So Emotional
Your Relationship with Money: Why It Can Feel So Emotional
Money is often talked about as though it’s simply about numbers.
Budgeting. Saving. Spending. Debt. Investing. Income. Outgoings.
But for many of us, money is about so much more than that.
It can bring up stress, guilt, fear, shame or even avoidance. It can leave us comparing ourselves to others or feeling like we should have everything figured out by now.
That’s because our relationship with money is rarely just about money. It can be shaped by our experiences, our upbringing, our self-worth and the messages we’ve received throughout our lives about success, security and what it means to have “enough”.
There’s often more going on than we realise
Sometimes we know why money feels difficult.
Sometimes we don’t.
Perhaps you grew up hearing “money doesn’t grow on trees” or watched people around you worry about paying the bills. Maybe you’ve experienced debt, redundancy, divorce or unexpected life changes. Or perhaps you’ve simply never been shown how to manage money with confidence.
Whatever your story, it’s okay.
We don’t know what we don’t know.
And recognising that can be the first step towards doing something differently.
Practical knowledge matters too
Learning about money is important.
But I’ve realised that practical knowledge on its own isn’t always enough.
You can understand what you’re supposed to do and still find yourself avoiding your finances or feeling anxious every time you think about money.
That’s why I believe it’s helpful to look at both:
- the practical side of money
- and the relationship we have with it.
Co-creating this course changed me too
When I was invited to co-create Your Wealth 2 Wellbeing, I thought I was simply bringing my coaching experience to the project.
What I didn’t expect was how much it would make me reflect on my own relationship with money.
As we developed the course, I found myself asking some of the same questions we were inviting others to explore.
What does wealth really mean to me?
How much of my sense of success had become tied to achievement?
Were there beliefs I’d been carrying without even realising?
I wasn’t just helping to create a course.
I was learning too.
It reminded me that money isn’t just about what sits in a bank account. It’s often connected to how safe we feel, how we see ourselves and what we believe is possible.
Curiosity before judgement
One of the things I often encourage people to do is become curious rather than critical.
Instead of asking,
“What’s wrong with me?”
perhaps we can ask:
- What does money bring up for me?
- What did I learn about money growing up?
- Do I connect my self-worth to what I earn or own?
- What does wealth mean to me?
- What beliefs might I be carrying that no longer serve me?
Not because we need to have all the answers.
But because curiosity opens the door to understanding.
Why I co-created Your Wealth 2 Wellbeing
When I agreed to be part of Your Wealth 2 Wellbeing, it felt like a natural fit.
The course brings together practical financial learning with space for reflection, while I bring the reflective coaching approach that sits at the heart of my work.
I’m passionate about helping people build a healthier relationship with themselves because that relationship influences so many other areas of life, including the relationship we have with money.
The course includes a free 60-minute coaching session with me, available after the 14-day refund period. It’s an opportunity to pause, reflect and connect what you’re learning with your own experiences.
If this blog has resonated with you, and you’re curious to explore both the practical and emotional side of money, I’d love to invite you to learn more about Your Wealth 2 Wellbeing.
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A final thought
I don’t believe building wealth is only about earning more.
I think it’s also about understanding ourselves.
Sometimes the most helpful place to begin is simply by recognising that our relationship with money is exactly that, a relationship. One shaped by our experiences, beliefs, fears, hopes and patterns, and one that deserves just as much care as strategy.
When we begin to notice the stories we’ve inherited, the beliefs we’ve carried and the emotions that influence our decisions, we give ourselves the opportunity to choose differently.
Perhaps that’s where real wealth begins.
Not just in our finances, but in the relationship we have with ourselves.
